See the black women in the 80's grew up the same way in the same split homes. 80's women watched their mother call their fathers names and say " he ain't shit" and "i am your daddy." Now, repeat that same black male hating information for her whole childhood and then lets add American values to this equation of the black woman. The television, department stores, and the movies puts cute babies in these girl's hands as a toddlers. The princess in the movies gets married and saved by Prince Charming (her husband). So, subconsciously you want to get married and have the perfect tv family like your mother didn't have. "But wait there's more!" lets not forget to take this false reality and mix insecurity and hate for their fathers with the new hip hop culture! The Hip Hop culture displays you as a sexual object and you are treated as such. Men grow up wanting that ass and you want Prince Charming so you give a young sex driven boy who is trying to impress his buddies by emulating the stars and the player uncle who always ask "how many girlfriends you got," and if you say 2 or more he gave you some candy. Now, let you give "Prince Charming" your soul and your most precious possession and let him trample and spit on it for you to give the next guy to do it a handful more times. "O shit I think I know why my baby mother is a psycho, we have created a monster America!!"
Now before I continue I have to say to my baby momma and all the spiteful baby mommas in the world i'm sorry for what this cruel world has done to you queens. Now, baby mommas move on!! You are destroying the essential fabric or your race. Get your queen status back and uplift us once again. The cards are stacked against a black man already. We are getting murdered by the police, murdered by other black males, and thrown in jails at disproportionate rates. Why are you against us too? I've seen a young black man's license taken by the government because he was a few hundred dollars behind on child support working two jobs on state ordered child support because the baby mother kept tencare. What's upsetting is he was paying for his child to have insurance and working two jobs to feed his families but his baby mother had a "we don't need you we got this" attitude. She laughs to her friends because he is incarcerated and now without a job because he couldn't get to work. Somehow an individual can find comedic relief in helping the state keep a black man from his two families. How could you help put a black man in jail baby mommas? You might as well be the system. That is not even the worst story I have to tell. Some baby mother's have crime stoppers on their top call list. They use the police to black mail their baby fathers!! Do i agree with young black men selling drugs to their community? Of course not but, the point is people in the streets are not surprised to see how many black men get snitched on or set up by the mother of their children and that is a major problem. If you are mad at your baby daddies for these reasons reasons I am talking to you! 1. he loves someone else 2. he is doing better at life than you 3. you think you cant get another man because he knocked you up and "what man wants a girl with kids" 4. he is having intercourse another girl. First of all a man does not determine your worth or self value. #2 you have something more important than that man and thats your child. Your spiteful actions against are not just destroying young black men's lives you are unknowingly destroying your child's life.
My baby mother and I don't have a sexual relationship. Matter of fact she is married. But she still expresses how much she loves me and wish we could "work it out." When I go pick up my daughter she always subtly explains how me and my new girl's relationship wouldn't work based on purely what she saw. "she doesn't have enough ass for you; you are an ass man." "ill let you try her but you know nobody was better than me." Baby momma stop!! This is not the worst. I actually don't care what she says no matter how disrespectful as long as she doesn't step out of line to make my significant other uncomfortable. My problem is that she is killing our child's future. Like most good baby father's I don't mind paying child support if you spend it on the child and I don't mind going an extra mile for our child even if that means dealing with your evil ass. Like most baby mothers she argues and says disrespectful things about me in front of our child and when she gets upset for whatever reason my child goes missing. They really go missing, I feel like putting their picture on a milk carton, putting out an amber alert , and calling Nancy Grace. This can go on for months. Using children as leverage to get what you want has to stop in our community.
Baby mothers stop disrespecting you baby father in front of your children. How you talk about your baby father and how you treat him most likely will be mirrored by your child. If she is a girl she will mirror your disrespectful actions with good men in her future. You are setting up her for failure in her future relationships and she will most likely another lonely frustrating baby mother. If he is a boy this will turn into rage and anger for the opposite sex and other black males because his image has been ridiculed and criticized to the point to where his self value is diminished. My baby mother like a lot of baby mothers try to use kids as a leverage to hurt their baby mothers but I will say this again; this has to stop!! Your arguments as parents wrong or right should not prevent a father from seeing his children. You don't need studies and pie charts to figure out a child needs his father but subconsciously a broken baby mother wants her daughter to grow up like her if necessary. "that i don't need you we good without you mentality" is the reason why our little black boys are growing up more feminine and our little girls are having sex at a young age and looking for love and father figure in all the wrong places. This mentality is the reason our little boys look for guidance in gangs and entertainment. Baby mothers will you continue to contribute to the black man's demise for your own interest. If you have a good black man who wants to participate in his child's life no matter what he did to you I ask you to please forgive him. Not for him, not for you, but for a fair shot at life for your children. I am not saying hateful baby mother's are the only reason for our issues in the community. I am saying the change of a community begins with you and our community desperately needs a makeover. We need two parents raising our kids in these tough times. WE need to see black man uplifted so they wont grow up hating themselves and the women wont grow up not trusting black men to be man. If you have a black man stepping up to the plate let him take a swing every time he's a bat for your child. Stop hurting us baby mother we might not be in love with you but we have love for you to become the queen that you are. You cant take your place back. Move on you deserve Prince Charming but you cant build your new home with just an iron hammer you need a team and a foundation. And if you want our children to find love, know respect for herself and her people I need your help. I'll pick up our daughter at 4:00pm if that's okay with you.
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